Does it matter if one bridesmaid's dress is slightly different from the rest?

Q. I am having six bridesmaids. One of them is very self-conscious about her arms -- she thinks they're fat and has let it be known whenever she is in a bridal party that she will not wear a sleeveless dress. Once she had to wear chiffon see-through sleeves and complained to everyone for months. My wedding is in July, and all the other bridesmaids want sleeveless dresses. At first I was ready to give in to her without hesitation, but now I am realizing that it isn't really fair to just consider her preference and nobody else's. I thought about choosing a dress style that comes both sleeveless and with a short sleeve and letting everyone choose what they want. She will probably be the only one to choose the sleeve, so she will stand out -- she's not the maid of honor. Should this matter?

A.Honestly, no. There's really no reason you need to be obsessing about whether your bridesmaids are identical in the first place (a little mixing it up is practically the norm these days!). It's definitely understandable that you don't want her to feel uncomfortable, but it sounds like she's taken this situation a bit too far more than once. You simply need to decide whether you're going to call her on it this time or just let it go and let her wear what she's comfortable in. It may not be worth the trouble to try to force her to wear a sleeveless dress, but you might just want to let her know that she looks great to you no matter what, and you don't understand why she's always so adamant about this. Maybe she needs to address this body issue with a close pal, and you might be that pal.